I am a Christian and I have seen God perform miracles in the lives of my loved ones. However, throughout my life, I had not experienced anything of such importance that I had absolutely no control over. When this happened, I cried out to God many times asking Him why this had to happen to me. Slowly and lovingly, He showed me. Now as I look back, I can see God’s grace in the whole situation and He was always there for me as long as I chose to walk with Him.

The night my husband told me his decision, I sought solace in one of my closest friends. Her advice to me was to focus on building my relationship with God, and not what my husband had done wrong. She said that God knew what I was going through and He had already overcome my problem. She encouraged me to establish myself right before God, fix my eyes on Him and not on the situation. Most importantly, she told me to keep praying for my husband, our marriage, and lay claim on all that God had promised in the bible.

The months that followed were very hard for me emotionally. My husband pursued actions to end our marriage. Despite these spiritual attacks taking place in my life, God’s love and mercy kept me going. Throughout the difficult period, God did not leave me alone. He reached out to me through the Bible, sermons and Christian books that my friends gave to me. A friend brought me to the Women’s Action Ministry (WAM) at Covenant Vision Centre. After that, I attended WAM meetings regularly as I was encouraged by the testimonies of marital breakthrough in the lives of many other women there. Above all, I was seeking God’s guidance to lead me out of this difficult situation and I received godly advice from Sis Shirley and the other sisters serving in WAM. 

When my husband spoke with me to file for separation on mutual grounds, I struggled to make a decision.  My logic told me that it would be the best thing for me in order to legalise the splitting of our assets, finances, etc. I received differing opinions from the people around me regarding the Christians’ stand on separation and divorce. I was confused and troubled. I sought God and from reading the bible, it was clear to me that God hates divorce. I knew that this was God’s answer to me. I decided to follow God’s Word despite all the uncertainties. I explained this to my husband and he accepted it. He told me that he would explore filing for a separation on his own. 

I shared with a number of my close friends on what had happened between my husband and me. Initially, I kept to myself as pride prevented me from letting others know that things had fallen apart in my marriage. I was prompted by the Holy Spirit that sharing this with others was an opportunity to share my faith with friends who were non-Christians. As I started to open up to others, I felt that it brought healing to me as I was freed from the bondage of pride and lies. It also strengthened my friendships as my friends also opened up and shared their problems with me.  
 
One Saturday evening in September 2006, my husband told me that he would like to go to church with me the next day. I thought he probably also wanted to discuss some separation matters. On Sunday morning, before our church service, he told me that he had decided to give our marriage another chance. He said he had been prompted by God to turn back since March 2006 but pride had prevented him from doing so. He felt that the turning point was when he had to cite reasons that were not true in the separation documents to initiate separation proceedings on his own. As God worked on my pride in the period leading to this day, I told my husband that anytime he was willing to give our marriage a chance, I was also prepared to do so. I said that we need not know how to mend our marriage as God would make that happen. We just needed to have willing hearts for Him to work in us.

Half an hour after my conversation with my husband, I received a text message from my aunt who had just attended Sunday service in her own church. Her message read “The Lord has answered our prayers this morning. Pastor Sivorsa from Argentina blessed all those with problems in their marriage.” This was God’s message to me that He has answered my prayers. Hallelujah! What a great God I serve.

Our Lord Jesus Christ works in miraculous ways. I believe what has happened did so for a reason.  It was for the glory of God. I praise God for this lesson and the opportunity to glorify his name. A marriage which I thought was good enough for me was not good enough for God. He wanted to give me more – a complete marriage with Christ at the centre. Today, my marriage is restored and what’s “MORE”, God has blessed us with our first child!